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I am afraid to send this email

Situation

  • You have drafted the email, but hesitate to send it
  • You reread it many times without changing much
  • You imagine negative reactions from the recipient
  • Small wording choices feel high-risk
  • Sending feels harder than writing

This situation appears when responsibility is carried by wording instead of intent.

Verdict

VERDICT: SWITCH

Do not keep rewriting to reduce fear. Do not send the email without clarity either.

A shift in focus is required.

Why this verdict

  • Fear is driven by unclear intent, not wording
  • Tone adjustments are being used to manage uncertainty
  • Rewriting cannot remove all risk

The problem is not expression, but decision.

What happens if you continue

  • You will delay sending without feeling safer
  • The message may become overly cautious
  • The decision will feel heavier with time

Avoidance increases perceived risk.

A safer next step

Switch from wording to intent.

Decide first: - What outcome you need from this email - What you are willing to accept in response - What clarity matters more than comfort

Once intent is clear, sending becomes easier.